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10 Things Netflix’s ’13 Reasons Why’ Gets Right & Wrong About Teen Bullying & Suicide

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  1. Claire says:

    I disagree with this article!

    A lot of the “wrong” sections all add up to Hannah’s story.
    The “not mentioning the the words, depression and stating that there was a lack of resources and parental help” was the final straw that drove Hannah to her suicide (tape 13). It wasn’t acknowledged because no one really knew and that was a major plot point. It drives the story to make it more realistic, as it is to the many people that have these mental illnesses. I sure didn’t mention to my parents I was depressed and I sure as hell didn’t have any resources or parental support, just like how Hannah didn’t either.

    And finally “glorifying” her suicide. I did not see it as glorifying it one bit. It was painful and horrendous. I did not see anything glorfying about it. It even had a character say the words “she was a coward”. I don’t think that’s glorifying it at all.

    You may have seen it as the way you have expressed it in this article, but I didn’t see any of this at all. So I don’t think everyone should share this article with friends and family. Because I feel all of it hits a very realistic note, and needs to be shared. Even if it is based on a fictional novel.

  2. Kaylah says:

    Personally, I find the parents and counsellor adaptation very accurate. From someone who had been rape and continued to be sexually assaulted I went to my school counsellor for help as I was struggling… but he didn’t listen and basically told me I needed to move past it, very much what happened to Hannah. After he notified my parents, my mother told me that maybe he just really liked me and I shouldn’t blame him. I had no adult figures to go to for help. I

    Sometimes, for some people that is the reality.

  3. Julie says:

    I found 13 Reasons Why painfully and liberatingly accurate. When I first read it as a young adult, struggling but undiagnosed with depression myself, it let me know that I was not alone with feeling these thoughts and that people, like the complex and wonderfully dynamic characters portrayed, are not all inherently evil, despite what I may see from my limited view.

    I’m now a university student, and reliving this incredible story still gives me the same feelings. I’ve never cried so much over any show or movie, and I don’t think I ever will again.

    I’m a survivor of .. a couple of things mentioned in the story .. it was an enormous relief to see a struggle portrayed so realistically. I don’t think this was meant to set an example in the way you mention, not in the least.
    It would definitely not have had the same effect on me if all ended well, if counselling solved Hannah’s problems, if parents and people in general were so easy to open up to. That’s a nice little fantasy but anyone who has been through things know it is not realistic… And if you’re in those shoes, trying therapy and finding a cold, unhelpful therapist, you still blame yourself, it makes you feel like you’re just so broken that you’re beyond repair. The fact that this struggle, the struggle for turning to help repeatedly and help falling short each time tells me that healing isn’t the fairytale people seem to assume it is or a recipe from a cook book, and that it’s okay, I’m not alone among those alone, not the most broken of the broken, and that I can still be okay, I just have to find the right help.
    And by empathizing with Hannah, and as a viewer wishing, practically begging her to just try once more, despite all her failures… Now *that* is an important thing to take away as a lesson. I could be Hannah.. but I won’t, because I will not stop trying.

    Don’t mistake this for a story of revenge and martyrdom.. this is the story of someone begging to be understood by her tormentors. Its a suicide note–its not romanticized, it’s very, very real. And trust me, these thoughts don’t need to be planted, if you have the problems, they will surface on their own.

    I think 13 Reasons Why even does well in giving hope. The book and the series both suggest very obviously, that if just one thing had gone right, Hannah would still be alive. It encourages me to find that one thing that’s still going right for me in life, and hold on with all my might.

    There is not a letter I would change in this portrayal.

  4. Julie says:

    And just a small addition: depression often remains undiagnosed. People take a long time to admit that they have depression and highschoolers are especially reluctant to admitting they have a mental illness. Without shoving the said stigma in the faces of the viewers, they are reaching the a wider audience by including those in denial.
    I do concur that mental illness needs to be destigmatized, but at least to me, this series serves a completely different and equally important purpose.

  5. alicia says:

    I have been through teen suicide and I agreed with most of the points of this article. I have read and watched the series and felt that it did glamorize suicide, as a means for gaining control and power over those who hurt you. By no means is it a bad story but it is far from the ‘mental health awareness’ tale that every praises it to be.

  6. Maddy says:

    The thing about the show that people do not seem to realize is that a person’s view will definitely be influenced on the things they have personally gone through . If someone watches the show and hasn’t had personal encounters with the issues discussed on the show, they will see things differently than someone who has experienced rape and self harm. I think that is why this article seems a bit one sided

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